Even Cesar Millan Needs A Pack

June 14th, 2013

Cesar Millan
As you may know, I am an absolute dog-lover. Since before I was married, I have always had a canine by my side. Just last Christmas, I had to put down my loved Chester, the eldest of two black labs. Through the years I have been able the cherish the addition that a dog brings into my life. So it should be no surprise that I often watch Cesar Millan’s television show, The Dog Whisper (now Leader of the Pack).

I was shocked last night to hear that Cesar attempted to kill himself with an overdose of drugs (NBC News). His partner had ended their relationship, his bull dog and best friend died, his kids were not talking with him and he was broke. His personal life
was collapsing. What the TV showed was a successful man with a passion to help canines and families in need. Who would have known that underneath it all, things were not so pretty.

Hospitalized for depression and his suicide gesture, Cesar had to rebuild his life. He had created a Cesar success on the silver screen but it was built on sand.He turned to others for support and realized he needed a pack too. He has changed his life, reordered his priorities and has a new girlfriend, one son is living with him and both are talking with him. It is easy to become disoriented with “success”. Compass bearings are easy to loose in the fog of life, Friends, loving family and time with them creates the pack. You cannot have a pack if you don’t give it attention. If you want to find happiness and contentment in life understand that work and pride in one’s work has a value but only in the context of life, health and family and relationships. (Including our animal friends).

As I write this blog ,Sammy, Chester’s son , lies next to me on Chester’s bed and I just finished lunch with my daughter. It doesn’t get better than this.

Use this story as a warning

Take care of your nest. Being successful in your career is wonderful but if you let it get ahead of you , you run the risk of losing sight of your ultimate priorities, your family, health and overall sense of well being. I think it is vital to have what I call safe people in our lives. They are people who have nothing to gain by testing our realities and keeping us on point. Who are your ” safe people”? The job requirements are honesty , patience and a non judgmental personality.They are people who will love you enough to have the courage to challenge when you are drifting off beam.

Build your work around your life, not your life around your work!

I have seen too many individuals who spend their lives pursuing some position, salary or status. In the end their work becomes their life but when the clock runs out at retirement or with illness, they are left empty handed, no friends, family or hobbies or interests. It is a death knoll. The golden years becomes a black whole. Experiment. Give yourself permission to try one new hobby this month. Look into it. How much will it cost. Reach out to a close friend you have not seen in years. Catch up and see how wonderful it feels

Find your balance point.

We all have a different fulcrum. Read your body if your balance is off.you won’t be sleeping, you will loose focus, be irritable, and likely have physical symptoms through weakened organ systems that communicate”Slow Down”.” Bridge Out” “Go another way” Your body talks. Are you listening?

Cesar forgot these simple tools. Benefit from his example and go another way.

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Dr.Mooney is a life coach, published author, co-director and owner of Karner Psychological Associates (KPA), which was established in 1987, with offices in Guilderland, East Greenbush, and Clifton Park. He has worked with numerous well-known companies, including General Electric, Freihofer's, Key Bank, St.Peters Hospital, and more.

One Comment to “Even Cesar Millan Needs A Pack”

  1. Latha says:

    I received these DVDs the day after I got my new 8-week-old boxer puppy. He was a holy terorr that first day before I saw the videos. But two days later, using these methods in no small part, he was potty trained with very few accidents, knew how to sit and stay , walked perfectly beside/behind me on the leash, didn’t cry or bark in the crate at night, waited for me to go through doors and narrow spaces ahead of him, and he’s happy all the time! As soon as I learned the importance of displaying calm dominance, he instantly started doing what I want (or what he thought that I want). And almost no discipline was needed once he realized I was the alpha, he just started trying harder to please me. So I’d say if anything Cesars principles create a much more humane and balanced environment than just traditional training only. I’ve had other dogs before and never had this kind of positive result from training.My situation may be different from most folks, as I work mostly from home and have no kids and I don’t watch much TV. So I’m able to devote quite a bit of time to training him. We now go on a one mile walk 3 times per day, plus shorter walks every 2-3 hours to go potty (just once in the middle of the night). So not everyone will have this kind of result, because they won’t have this kind of time. But, again, I did this in just two days!! My wife thinks I’m magic.In short, I’m absolutely amazed at how much more effective training becomes when you incorporate some of Cesar’s basic principles. I have no doubt that these DVD’s saved me and my wife all kinds of trouble. THANKS CESAR!

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